So you want to attract love into your life?
You become your beliefs. You become your dominant thoughts…and some are so deep within your subconscious that you may not even be aware of them or the fact that they are running the show behind closed doors. I used to think that the reason why my previous relationships didn’t work out because I picked the wrong men, and whilst I can acknowledge that this is true, it wasn’t until I looked deeper into myself that I understood there was a belief behind me choosing to stay with someone that I knew wasn’t right for me - a belief of not being good enough. I would subconsciously attract men that would prove my belief right.
That’s what your brain does…it seeks out information to prove itself right because that’s how it continues to uphold your subscious dominant beliefs/assumptions.
If you have a subconscious belief that you are not attractive, your brain will seek to find information that proves you right, and because that is your dominant assumptions about yourself, even if something happened that suggested that you are actually attractive, you would dismiss it, think it was just a fluke or not even pay any attention to it at all because it doesn’t align with your underlying subconscious belief.
So how do you fix this you may ask?
Step 1: Get to the core of your limiting beliefs
Where did this belief come from? Where did it all begin? I guarantee you will realise that it didn’t even start with you, it never does. Using being unattractive as an example, it came from your mum or dad making comments about your looks, or that silly little kid that called you ugly in year 6, that guy that you liked that told you you’re not his type or the beauty standard being pushed on social media. It always comes from someone else, and this goes for any negative dominant thoughts/beliefs/assumptions that you have about yourself.
THOSE NEGATIVE DOMINANTS BELIEFS DON’T EVEN BELONG TO YOU.
Once you realise this, you’ll be half way through your manifesting journey because you’ve finally identified the root cause which is the hardest bit.
Step 2: Take your power back!
It’s now time to start becoming the person you know deep down that you are destined to be. I know you’ve even seen little glimpses of how amazing the new you is but you never take the plunge to try to become them. Well now is the time! You are that loveable person, that person that has amazing reciprocal relationships, that knows that they deserve to be treated beautifully, that doesn’t settle, that has their specific person (whether that be a new or old SP).
I want you to consistently listen to our self-concept and love affirmations playlists. These will help you change your current negative dominant beliefs about love into positive ones.
I want you to start doing mirror work, if you aren’t doing it already. Focus on giving yourself the love you want whilst you wait for your manifest to show up in your real life. Do something nice for yourself everyday, even if it’s something small like putting on lipgloss rather than lip balm, or only having 1 sugar in your tea instead of two. Even the smallest of things can make a difference when it comes to treating yourself better.
Step 3: The fun part…time to fine tune your desire!
Write down the new story of you in relation to your love life. What does your dream love life look like? How are you treated? How does it make you feel? I want you to envision it as much as you can. Neville Goddard, who I learnt a lot about manifestation and the law of assumption from suggest to imagine this before you fall asleep to help impress your subconscious mind. So before you go to bed you better get to thinking! :)
I also want you to do this about the new you. What do they look like? What do they wear? How do they interact with people? What are their hobbies and interests? What does their body look like? Think about the steps you would need to take to become that new you and start taking those steps in your daily life:
Go start that new hobby
Get your hair done
Journal
Take pride in what you look like
Take that class
Start that gym membership
The new and improved you is closer than you think so by identifying the steps you need to take you’ll bring yourself one step closer everyday.
The relationship that you desire will come to you once you start focusing on YOU and start making changes to become the new and improved YOU. Remember, there is no one to change but self. It all starts with you.
