Say ‘I do’ to you
Anytime in my life that I have genuinely made an effort to do things that I enjoy, put myself first and have goals that I’m working towards, my life has shifted in such a beautiful way. Examples of this include me starting The Value of the Phoenix, becoming a lot closer to my friends and family, buying my first property and meeting new love interests.
You are the star of your very own show, you are the main character of your life therefore you should aim to have main character energy in your life! That doesn’t mean you become selfish, only think about yourself and forget about others. It means you ensure that you are a priority in your life. Remember, you cannot pour from an empty cup.
When we think of commitment a lot of the time we think of marriage, weddings, vows etc. ‘For richer, for poorer. In sickness and in health, til death do us part.’ How about we start saying those vows to ourselves? How about we make a commitment to ourselves? How about we dedicate ourselves to ourselves!
You are with yourself forever. You are your very own ride or die. You’re the Bonnie to your very own Clyde. Surely, this should be enough of a reason for us to try for ourselves, to want better for ourselves, to level up ourselves as and where we can right?
I dedicate time to myself everyday and it has been such a blessing. It doesn’t have to be for a long period of time, but it just needs to be time strictly for YOU.
Here are a few examples of things I do to prioritise myself every week:
Morning/evening meditation - As soon as I wake up or just before I go to sleep, I lay in bed and think about how I want my day today, I think my affirmations, and say things I am grateful for.
Exercise - I work out 3-5 times per week, and only on weekdays so that I can enjoy a lie in on the weekends.
Music - I dedicate at least one evening per week to listen to my favourite songs and dance around my living room.
These 3 things are so simple, yet the peace of mind I experience during and afterwards is unmatched. I always feel proud of myself for doing these things and putting my happiness, mental, physical and spiritual health at the forefront of my life. I say ‘I do’ to myself. I put a metaphorical ring on my finger, I am in this until the wheels fall off.
I saw a video on TikTok asking people what the biggest regret in their lives were and the most common answer was that they allowed the fear of judgement to stop them from going for things they really wanted to do. And to me, I interpret this as ‘not doing enough things that bring me joy because I was scared of what others would think.’ I know this feeling, it is still something I deal with to this day, but I choose to do things anyway because it makes ME happy.
Fear is the root of all our limiting beliefs. It is what stops us from doing things we enjoy, trying new things or even being the real us. I delve into this in my Self Concept & Manifestation Guide and Journal. So I ask you…who are you? Or better yet, who is it that you know you can be?
Start taking small steps to become that person. I have dedicated myself to myself because every so often I get a glimpse of the future me, and I really want to be her. But I have to start doing things she would do now, in order to become her in the future. She already exists…I’ve just got to bring her to the forefront.
Are you bringing the future you to the forefront? Are you enjoying your life for what it is now? Are you saying those vows to yourself? I hope so, because this is where you will see the most changes in your life. We are all on this beautiful journey called life together, so let’s learn and grow together, shall we?
Patrice x
